The Ability to Discard what Other People Think of You
This is the third principle of learning to use the Adventure mind. You will ALWAYS find people who want to steal your dreams. But you have to be strong and learn to walk way from naysayers.
This is not as easy as it sounds. We DO care what others think of us. And it shows in a few different ways. One blazing way it shows in western cultures is the ridiculous concept of “keeping up with the Joneses”. Your neighbor buys a new car, you buy a new car. Your friend put his child in private school, you do too. It has very little to do with what YOU want or VALUE in life, other than the fact that you VALUE appearing to be “better” than your neighbor, when in fact all you become is more shackled to your life.
So now you and the Joneses are playing this one upsmanship game while your neighbor down the street, Mr. Smith lives a more modest lifestyle and doesn’t care what you think. Meanwhile, he is planning and saving and working toward his own dream. One day, he announces he has just bought a sailboat and is taking his children out of public school for a year to sail around the world. You and Mr. Jones stand in the driveway with your mouths hanging open in awe. You look around at all the stuff that you’ve accumulated because you cared more about what others thought of you than your own dreams and you realize that you can’t take off and sail around the world like Mr. Smith.
Take a look around you and see if you’ve been playing the “keep up with the Joneses” game and if that has tied your hands from being able to go after your own dreams. Can you make changes?
Take your list of things you want to accomplish in your life and put it up on your wall. Look at them constantly and remind yourself which direction you are headed and what is most important to you. Don’t get distracted.
Another way we show that we care about what other people think of us is by dream stealing. If you mention a fabulous dream you have to travel to every country in the world do your friends tell you all the ways it can’t be done? Are they trying to steal your dreams? They don’t want you to go after and accomplish your dreams because they don’t have the guts to go after theirs. They don’t have to look in the mirror every morning and wonder why they were left behind. It justifies their meager existence to keep you down as well.
Or are YOU one of the dream stealers? Are you afraid that others might think you’re crazy or stupid for wanting to go after your dreams? Do you care MORE about what others think than about your own dreams? Therefore do YOU put down your friends who want more out of life or are you 100% supportive?
Food for thought.
In order to think outside your area code, care more about doing than having and caring less about what others think, you must also develop the ability of principle number four, the ability to take a risk.
To Your Adventures!